Can I believe and have questions?

2009 November 17
by aflynt

Do you ever have questions about faith even in the middle of believing? Do you ever find yourself saying, “I believe in Jesus and I trust the Bible, but I just don’t get how x, y, or z works?” It’s not that you have disbelief or that you really even have doubts, but you feel like you’re doing something wrong because you have these questions that no one else seems to have?

You’re not alone. The truth is that we all have questions that range from major ones that keep us up at night to painful ones to simple curiosities. If any ever tels you that they don’t have questions, they’re lying! Anselm said that we all have “faith that is seeking understanding. Mary, when approached by Gabriel to announce she would give birth to Jesus, asked, “How will this work?”

You’re not doing anything wrong. It’s not a sin to ask how faith works itself out in your life. In fact, I think that God is more honored in your honest pursuit of knowing him and how he is moving in your world that just relenting to, “I guess I’ll just have to wait until heaven to know that one.”I have to think that God loves a curious follower of Jesus.

Parents, don’t squash your children’s curiosity. Encourage them to ask any and every question they have. Help them have an honest and real relationship with Jesus and not a cold, religiously pious heart.

What stories do you read your kids?

2009 November 12
by aflynt

Right now, I’m reading our kids the story of the exodus. Crazy, amazing, strange, miraculous things are happening all over the place in the story of slavery and freedom.

I believe all scripture points to Jesus and shines the light on Jesus. Exodus is an amazing foreshadowing of what Jesus would be and do for us. But, wow! It is really hard to communicate that to a four and six year old. But, ohhhh, does Gavin love this story. It has totally captured his attention.

What are you reading with your kids? How are you pointing them to Jesus?

Do you ever feel unwanted?

2009 November 9
by aflynt

piglet Do you ever feel like you are the swine in the swine flu? Do you feel like you are unwanted because you’re damaged goods, messed up, imperfect, don’t have it all together? Do you ever feel like you gotten shoved away from the pack and left all alone? Do you ever feel unwanted?

The truth is we are all carriers of an incurable virus that infected us before birth and will infect everyone around us. It will infect and damage relationships and cause us to die. We are sin-sick.

“God demonstrates his own love for us in this: while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)

No matter what anyone else thinks of you, what you have done in your past, or even what you think of yourself, you are God’s beloved child. He has promised to never leave you, forsake you, push you away to live alone in your sin sickness. He has called, healed, and restored you to a new life. He is close to you and holds you as his own.

Go live knowing you once were dead, but you now have the eternal life and everlasting, boundless love of the great God and king of this universe, Jesus!

ps- I totally jacked this picture from Carlos Whittaker’s blog.

How do you identify & recruit leaders? (final)

2009 November 6
by aflynt

We’ve been talking about how to identify and involve new leaders into the life of the church to further the church’s mission and lead those who serve into a growing relationship with Jesus. Check out the prior posts below to get the whole scoop).

So now that you have the roles you need to fill and names of potential leaders, what do you do?
1. Personal contact is best. We do a vision casting message each year to recruit leaders, but one-on-one discussions tend to reap better results. Sometimes I email someone first and then follow up with a phone call. But the more personal the contact the better.
2. Know what position you want to invite a person to consider, what it entails, and why before making contact.
3. When you call be prepared to have someone say no. Better they don’t commit at all than commit and let you down.
4. Give people space to pray and consider if this is a good fit. You are not “selling via a cold call”.
5. Have a follow up plan for those that say yes. Let them know what the next step and time frame is. Let them know who will be calling them next.
6. Keep records. If you have a place to keep centralized records or conversations, involvement, etc. this can really help in the future.

Don’t forget that it is ultimately Jesus by the power of his Holy Spirit that calls people to faith, indwells them with a desire to be involved, equips them to lead, and brings them to the point of commitment. Therefore, bathe this process in faith, trust, and praying.

Now go have fun involving as many people as possible in the greatest adventure of all time… following Jesus!

How do you identify & recruit leaders? (pt 3)

2009 November 6
by aflynt

If you are just jumping in, we’re in the middle of a series about identifying and involving new leaders. Check out part 1 and part 2 for more background.

It has been my experience in the church that people overwhelmingly want to help, feel good when asked to help, and say “yes” if they can commit. So why do so many in church leadership have a hard time finding enough volunteer leaders?

Many churches struggle to raise up leadership because of systemic issues. Here’s one (certainly not THE) system to begin to identify potential leaders:

First, look for people with growing involvement. Potential volunteer leaders usually are involved in one or more other facets of the life of the organization. Look at these factors:
a) Are they regular attendees in worship?
b) Are their children regularly involved?
c) Are they a part of a community group?
d) Are they giving financially on a regularly or increasing frequency (note I didn’t say anything about an amount)?

Second, keep and use up-to-date, accurate records. You should have some system for tracking group participation, children’s ministry attendance, and financial giving. Compile those records into similarly formatted Excel or Numbers spreadsheets. Come up with a criteria to assess what constitutes regularity (you want to allow guests time to engage and non-Christians or young Christians some time to grow). Then filter and cross reference your lists.

Third, get a second (and third) opinion. Ask another staff person and/ or a couple trusted volunteer leaders to look at your list. Ask for feedback. They may know something that is going on in someone’s life that you don’t, but is a factor. They may also know others that should be on the list that are not on it.

Fourth, divide up the list and begin to make contact. Have staff and trusted leaders call potential leaders to discuss the possibility of becoming a leader. This is also a wonderful way to (re)connect with people in the church, see how life is going, and even share the vision. These calls are part recruiting, part discipleship opportunity, part pastor care, and part vision casting. Remember that you are presenting an opportunity for them to have a front row seat as Jesus changes lives. Don’t be shy!

Check back for part 4 to discuss how to make contact and what to say.

How do you identify & recruit leaders? (pt 2)

2009 November 5
by aflynt

The question that faces many churches is, “How do you find and involve volunteer leaders?” In part 1, we looked at how to identify and ask a leader to serve. But what happens when you’ve exhausted the list of “natural born leaders”?

First, leading is form of discipleship.
Those that will be volunteering to lead will grow in their faith as the Holy Spirit uses their preparation and time in their position. Be careful to avoid just asking people to serve because they can do something for you. Serving is a way to help people grow to be with and like Jesus while fulfilling the mission of the church.

Second, assess your current situation. Create a chart in Excel or Numbers, broken out by area, group, and/ or role. Then plug current leaders into that chart. Now you can easily identify immediate needs. But knowing your current situation and where there are holes is only part of the plan.

Third, look down the road six months. Identify and create a chart for what you believe you will need for the next season of ministry. Are you growing? How fast? Do you foresee splitting groups or roles in the near future? Put actual positions (they’ll be blank at this point) into you chart. I like to add my future needed positions to my chart of current leaders. This helps me see it all at once. I just color code or label future needs uniquely.

Forth, evaluate current leadership. This isn’t being mean or judgmental. Take a look at who is serving where and how faith and effective they are. Are they a great fit? Would they be a stronger fit in a different group, role, or even department? I highlight in a specific color those who want or need to move from their current roles.

All of this doesn’t actually get any more leaders into your vacant spots, but at least you have an accurate picture of the current and future situation and needs. Now it’s time to start praying and being a recruiter (as we’ll discuss in the next post- part 3).

How do you identify & recruit leaders? (pt 1)

2009 November 4
by aflynt

One of the questions that I get asked all the time is, “How do you raise up volunteer leaders?” It’s a great question… if we’re all talking about the same thing.

If you just want a warm body in a room of kids to keep them from running off or killing each other, that’s one thing (personally, I’d suggest raising the bar a bit).

A different tactic is needed if you want highly qualified and motivated leaders who will take ownership and really invest in developing relationships with families that will lead them toward a growing relationship with Jesus. This is who we want leading at Access Church. This is who we will focus the next few posts on.

First, leaders are already leading, but maybe not in a formal role in your organization. Look for who is already gathering people together socially, managing projects or people at work, starting a new company or venture, or has unique talents like creativity or detail-orientedness (is that a word?). This requires spending time with and knowing people in your organization.

Second, leaders don’t always volunteer themselves.
You may need to build a relationship and then ask them to join the team. Remember that a leader wants to lead and usually leads out of a strong sense of purpose. This means you need to be prepared to articulate a clear mission, purpose, vision, and win so that the leader will be a partner going with you in the same direction. You’ll also need to have a specific role prepared for them.

Don’t forget it means that you’ll need take a risk to trust them to actually lead. It means risking they may fail or they may do things differently than you.

You may also end up surrounded by people who are better than you… how awesome would that be!

Come back for the follow up posts on actual, practical strategies to identify and recruit leaders (we’ll save training them for another discussion).

Do you wonder, “Do I even matter?”

2009 November 3
by aflynt

Each Monday our staff gets together and asks, “What made you feel like you accomplished your win this past week?” Here’s an email I was cc’d on from a mother of an elementary age girl to her daughter’s small group leader…

“…You continue to make a positive difference in the lives of the Ekern family.

Sara came home with her “shoe” cards. After her afternoon of dancing – she went to some homes of our friends… and is offering cleaning services in exchange for cash donations for the shoe ministry. She is offering to clean toilets, floor boards and counters in bathrooms…WOW…can’t get her to do it without whining in my house…but she’s on the road to ear money for shoes and I think it is GREAT!!!

So in case you ever wonder…is this worth it…am I making a difference…the answer is YES!… Have a great day!”

If you serve in Family Ministry and ever wonder if you are really making a difference, you are! Don’t believe the deceiver’s lies that you are just a volunteer or that you don’t matter or that you’re not good at what you do. You are chosen, called, and being used by our great God and Savior, Jesus, as he redeems families!

If you aren’t serving at Access or in your local church, please take the leap of faith to get involved. I promise you won’t regret it!

I don’t have time to…

2009 November 2
by aflynt

time-flies-clock I don’t think I’ve talked to anyone recently who has said, “I have way too much time on my hands and not enough to do.” We all seem to be incredibly busy… busy doing the best things is a whole other discussion for another time. So many of us seem to be doing a ton of things, but are we pursuing the most important things? Are we going after things that make us feel strong (Marcus Buckingham)?

If you’re like me, I imagine you find yourself saying, “I don’t have time to ___________”

I don’t have time to…
…exercise, pray daily, eat well, play with my kids, go on a date with my spouse, cultivate friendships, get all the home projects done, relax, have a hobby, read a book (or The Book), do everything I have to do at work, or volunteer.

Two things that I’ve said that I don’t have time for (professionally speaking) is reading/ studying and taking time to think/ dream. Jeff Henderson, Campus Pastor at Buckhead Church, talked about the importance of those two things at a meeting I was at a few weeks ago.

I love how those two things were things I had written down weeks earlier as needing to spend time on, but feeling like I had no time to do them in my day.

So I just put them into my iCal as repeating appointments each week. And guess what, I’ve had time to do them! All it took was permission to do them (thanks Jeff) and the tools to make them a priority (thanks Apple).

Try this:

1. Write down two things that you believe are important to your job, family, or quality of life that you aren’t currently doing each week?
2. Hear me say, that you have permission to pursue those critical aspects or tasks.
3. Go put them into your calendar so that the time is blocked out and your will be reminded of them.
4. Tell someone your doing this. Accountability is huge!
5. Just do it.

Backyard Pictures

2009 October 30
by aflynt



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